My husband and I went to a wedding this past Saturday. We have been to 3 other weddings since we got married. Everytime I go to a wedding I am reminded of all the things I would have done differently for my wedding. Maybe this list of things I regret doing or not doing during my wedding will help some future brides.

1. Not relaxing. I really regret being so uptight on my wedding day. I was not only really nervous but I wanted everything to go right. I kept telling myself if things went wrong I was going to laugh it off but it didn't work. I had spent so much time planning the wedding that when something went wrong I had a hard time letting it go. I think I should have been more mentally prepared to really let things go if something went wrong. I should have just let myself have fun. I was wound so tight that I couldn't have fun. So after all the long hours spent planning and all the money spent, It is sad to say that I didn't even have fun at my own wedding.

2. Not being myself. I read in an article that said brides should be true to themselves on their wedding day but I didn't really understand what they meant until it was too late. I had a vision of what a bride should be and that is what I followed instead of who I really am. For example, I usually have my hair down or in a pony tail. I NEVER put my hair in a updo but for some strange reason I decided to put my hair in an updo for my wedding. I didn't like how I looked and I felt awkward on my wedding day because it didn't feel like me.

3. Settling on a make-up artist. I intially chose the make-up artist my sister used on her wedding day but I changed my mind after the trial make-up. I wasn't wowed by the trial and the make-up looked messy. The make-up artist had wanted to reschedule my appointment for the trial but I couldn't reschedule because I had planned to take my engagement photos that day with the trial make-up. I felt that maybe because she was rushed that day that it contributed to the sloppiness. I scheduled for another trial make-up session with another make-up artist and had to pay another 200 dollars. I didn't like the make-up from the second make-up artist but I stuck with her because I didn't want to spend another 200 dollars for another trial. I felt ugly on my wedding day because I didn't feel comfortable with how I looked in my make-up. I actually thought I could have done a better job applying the make-up myself.

I knew I made a huge mistake getting rid of my first make-up artist when I went to my cousin's wedding which was one week after mine. She had used my first make-up artist and her make-up was fantastic. It looked really clean, smooth and just gorgeous. If I had a choice I would have not settled for my 2nd make-up artist and kept looking. It really affected my mood on my wedding day. Instead of feeling beautiful, I felt self concious. A bride should feel confident on her wedding day and this is something no bride should skimp on.

4. Overspending. If you have the money to have an extravagant wedding then go for it. If you don't then your wedding can still be great without all the extras. I wish I had not spent so much on my wedding and saved more of my money to buy a house. During the wedding I didn't even notice half the stuff I had spent meticulously planning. There is so much stuff going on during the wedding you are not even going to notice what is missing or even care. Although my husband has told me many of our guests have complimented how beautiful our wedding was and they did notice the details.